Long live Matt Zimmer.
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classicswim He’s said plenty nice things on my behalf, even today, and I’ll just state on the record that the only reason I made a blog account in the first place was to stay close by him.
The writing was pretty much on the wall that Toonzone was useless by the time I got here. And I don’t know. I could never be him. Genuinely not a pissing match of “oh, I’m not a great user, YOU are!” I mean I genuinely don’t put as much confidence or belief or effort into the things I do the way he does for himself. He’s got boundaries and standards as opposed to me and he handles any little thing with as much care as deserved. It’s an empowering headspace like none other.
The writing was pretty much on the wall that Toonzone was useless by the time I got here. And I don’t know. I could never be him. Genuinely not a pissing match of “oh, I’m not a great user, YOU are!” I mean I genuinely don’t put as much confidence or belief or effort into the things I do the way he does for himself. He’s got boundaries and standards as opposed to me and he handles any little thing with as much care as deserved. It’s an empowering headspace like none other.
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Date: 2024-05-28 12:15 am (UTC)The way PinkieLopBun handled the ban for me made me a bit uncomfortable. She was not very responsive to my feelings at all. And I did and do still have them.
PinkieLopBun is very well-known on that site as a thoughtful administrator who cares about the people on the board. The thing is, I always got the sneaking suspicion she greatly disliked me, and I frankly don't know why, or even steps I could have taken to remedy that, or even if that was my responsibility to try and fix. She was polite enough, but I could tell my posting style rubbed her the wrong way, which I always thought was weird. And I can't change myself for a single person. I don't want to.
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Date: 2024-05-28 12:39 am (UTC)I mean I probably would say that on my actual boards, but all I truly did was clap back straight forward on his shit trolling. Basically if I never made the PM, they would still enact the ban just ‘cause they wanted to get rid of me, and the harmless comment was still juicy enough for them to huddle in.
What I previously said might also read off like I suddenly have this grudge toward Pinkie when quite the contrary! She’s simply one of the few to actually bear a grudge way longer than I possibly could have.
Can’t really single her out for much other than the fact any genuine problem I had, she wanted me to keep quiet. It was only a condescending shutdown or two. Like she could level with me on certain things if I’m that nasty to her, except gaslighting can also be her deal.
I got an anonymous note (1000% not from her lol) on the deleted Red Arrow comment that said my reaction was understood, and that was the precise level of genuine communication I needed from there the entire time. And I could only get that through an anonymous note...
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Date: 2024-05-28 01:07 am (UTC)To be honest, I've had plenty of Mod notes telling me they understood my frustration. But they've never been thoughtless enough with me to offer anonymous support via a notification. That's not right.
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Date: 2024-05-28 01:13 am (UTC)Any type of comment that validates your stance and how you feel, even by a smidge can go a long way. It would’ve been the proper push needed to just let things go, but it’s clear they’d rather wait til there’s a spiral or blowout to finally take charge.
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